HEART BREAK....(inspired by BSCN.....the departed)

hmmm my people oh where do i start from....bear with me this note is just a quick write up...cos i read BSCN' blog....ok.....lets start....

its a sweet experience to fall in love ....something you cant just explain...most tyms we nid to hold everything close you our heart....although alot of guys dont knw what they have until they lose it ..likewise ladies.

singles, who have been hurt and have experience a broken relationship, often carry in their heart unforgiveness towards those around them....bscn' story is quiet different from this....cos i really dont know the full story how she meet reggie... but am sure she was hoping something great and wonderful would come out of the relationship....someone once shared a story of how her fiance impregnated and married her best friend...tell me ow can one get over this...

but the truth still remain that life goes on, when she later got involved in other relationship she ened up dumping the men after raising their hopes that she was committed to the relationship.....wetin.....my people is she hurting them or hurting herself...

you need to let go of bitterness by accepting the frailty of man......after all no be man...and to err is man

learn from the past...ask yourself what part did you play that led to the relationship breaking up? Do not conclude that you did nothing, such attitude mite just be the reason why it got broken in the first place

alot of ladies ...aba....women...most of us put the blame on men...without trying to adjust ourselves.
someone said that one of the reasons that men and women fail to love is because they dont do an autopsy on the death of their last relationship

speak to urself....the mind is a battle ground, you need to say to urself...move one ...tell yourself the truth...no mind me i know ee no dey easy ...but that is the only thing that will help.

Renew your mind...that all men and women are not desame though both sex have similiar traits, but the degree of traits are manifested is one of the differentiating feactors

look at the bright side of things..there is someone somewhere God has prepared specially for you.....hmmmm...ideal man and wowan...see groove.....lol
dont bother abt HEART BREAKERS ...THEY DONT WORTH THE CRY.....
1. knw that it is not the end of the world

2. work on your mind to guide you against bitterness, hatred and envy...

3. believe in yourself ...notin more

4. ehh ehh start taking care of yourselfand make yourself available for ...BETTA GUY...

5.Become friendly, smile laugh and mingle with others

6. definitely, thought of him / her would come to yuor mind...try an engage yourself to some thing good...

7. need you cry any longer, wipe your tears, come out of your shell, think abt those great things you desire coming your way

8.live as if you're the only creature on earth....

it helps.....what do you think my friends do you agree with me.....

RACISM (a nightmare)

One day in august walking along the dusty road in South Carolina, it was summer and i think the temperature was at least 100 in the shade, but i was going to visit my aunt. i was an only child, but she had a house full of children and we play well together. i used to walk there quite often, things seems to be beter than it used to be. As i walked along, i felt as though i was getting baked alive, my blond hair was turning a different color. i dont know why but the hottest day of the year i lift my straw hat home. As i continue to walk, it was as though i could count with my toes, each pebble on the ground. how i sished for a ride. a few cars passed by, but i wouldnt dare get into someone's car unless i knew them well. i had been warned especially about the colored people, i was so afraid of them.

Finally someone came along that i knew well. it was Buzz and Dan. i was happy to see them, they grew up in the community and besides, they lived on the next street from me. so i jumped in the car feeling rather safe. Buzz was driving and he mentioned something about a short cut through the woods. for some reason i began to feel butterflies in my stomach, but these were good guys why should i feel uncomfortable? after all i saw them in church every sunday. then suddenly the car stopped and i was asked to get out so they could fine out wat the problem was.

By the time my feet touched the ground, my entire body was on the ground and they rolled me over and over. i asked them to stop but they wouldnt listen, i yelled and kicked but, their wasnt a house in sight. Buzz calledme a cry baby and told me to shut up because we were going to have some fun and i would like it. they tossed me around as though i was a beach ball. i could no longer fight the two of them off, so i lay motionless on the ground, i felt as though i was being crushed by a heavy building. i was there for what seemed to me , hours. my body begsan to ache all over. when the ordeal was completed, i was left alone with my clothes hlf torn off. i was dirty and bugs were crawling on me. somehow i managed to crawl back to the side of the dusty road, i tried to stand when i heard the next car coming, but fell as the car came closer. as i lay on the ground i could hear the car door slam. maybe a nice lady was coming to help me, As i looked up, i could see this colored man standing over me, i quickly said to him, please dont hurt me... i told him who i was and who my parents were, then i blacked out.

The next day, i found out that the doctor had been to visit me during the night. as i lay in bed i heard my parent's say; ''He wont get away with it" i called to them so i could explain what had happened, but they wouldnt listen. they told me they knew what happened and he would never hurt anyone else.

The headlines in the paper read: COLORED BOY RAPES WHITE GIRL. I tried to tell them that they were making a mistake but they refused to believe me. i knew he was innocent, he helped me. Nice boys like Dan and Buzz wouldnt do a thing like that. i continued to tell them that they were making a mistake but everyone turned a deaf ear to me. a few days passed and the poor colored boy was HANGED. i begand to tell myself it was all a bad dream. about six weeks following the hanging, i was unable to distinguish what was reality. i was finally placed in a mental institution. that was over 20years ago. i still remain in the institution, every night that poor boy that was hanged comes to visit me. i cant forget him will it ever go away? because of me he died and because of him, I DIE TOO.....

A TRUE LIFE STORY....LETS JOIN HANDS TOGETHER AND STOP THE "R" WORD {RACISM}

EVERYTHING HAS IT'S TIME {Ecc 3:1-8} This is one of the chapters dat interest me....now lets get going what is time?

Time is something that keep running and waits for no one... in everything you do give time...even though you dont give it, it alwayz come into the picture of what ever you do. one of my pastors says "life managements begins with time management" which i strongly believe
were i am today seems to be like i could neva get there {back then}but then time stepped in, a future of a man goes with time alwayz take a step at a time there is never a need to rush things

seriously speaking, right now i need alot of things dat i cant even wait for tommorrow to come and this thing called time keeps stepping in to say ...slow down you cant do it without me... i now creat"
a friend of mine came to preach in my church his name is FISAYO... while he was preaching i saw his zeal and i looked back at were we all started from.... guess what it was time that set in ... time for him to shine

before now i used to compare myself with a lot of people around me, like wanting to be like them... i realize their was time for everything...now i have what i want if not all but few... which i say THANK GOD...somepeople dont even have quater of wat i have today... so tell me why cant i wait for time?
Fisayo was once a teenager dats why he was able to flow with each and every one of us,
events in life dont announce their coming time just set in.
i want you to know that there is time for everything under heaven....even a lion no matter how hungry it is there is always time for it to look for its prey
God has made everything beautiful in His own way.... the difference between the beginning and the end is Time.
Give life time

happy buffday to me

am so so happy to be joined to the living....infact very strong....wen i look back at were i started from i just kip thanking God, its not easy i must say. those tyms dat on my birthday am alwayz ill... and moody.... and then alwayz bothered that my ex is not calling but now am as free as a butterfly.....
i got l0ads of text messages i couldn't sleep. my best friend gave me a wonderful gift i felt special.....no bi me oh ...na God do am.....

am having a gats 2 gada {jenifa} in my house 2morow... and i hope it turns out gud... i trust God thou my sistas and friends are doing the arrangy.... "cookin and all dat" also got buffday cake from 3people wow .....i feel loved.......

swity pies ...plz pray for me today is my day and i know your prayers will go a long way in my life
ttlola....my love dont worry yours will be sent thru twitter..... wish you were around.....i will upload pics .....world changers'

may i have enof happiness to make me sweet
enof hope to make me happy,
enof sorrow to keep me human.... God can not give me beyond wat is best for me
enof money to buy myself a gift......


love ya all..........

bonding of a father to a child (inspired by yankeenaijababe and leggy) they both talked abt their dad

MY DAD.....a great inspiration, my best friend who was always there for me, someone who loved me even wen i was unknown and unformed. a man who struggled hard to get what life had in stock for him, he always stood for something good even thou no one was standing with him

yes am using past tense because a night came when i saw my friend no more...i remember some things we shared together then... that even my mom used to be very jealous and angry.but then he treated us equally. my dad used to have a long cane bac then that anytym i and my siblings and friends are all in my house jisting,disturbing my dad never waste time in bringing that very long cane....lol...everyone of would start running back and front to look or a way to escape my dads cane...my usual spot was under the bed...that one day he raised up the bed and started laughing and just shaked his head.....

i love gala so much (naija fast food)dat my dad killed a very small rat (he knows i hate rats)and kept it in a gala pack and rapped #10 over it ...thn he called saying "shade come and take gala and use that #10 to buy solo fanta...happy me i took it went into the room during shakara for my siblings ...OMG!!! wen i decided to eat i saw rat ...i screamed they were all wondeing wat hat was ....eventually they saw it and started laughing meanwhile my dad was also laughing in the sitting room.....God i miss those days

But then death came and stool him away...it was a breezy sunday night after chating with him as usual...he asked me to bring him his news paper which i did and all of a sudden h started holding his chest ...have never been scared like dat in my life....i rushed to call my mom and elder ones (am the last born)they rushed him to the hospital....i ran after them with my hands on m head crying so hard....i didnt look @ anybody's face...even the guy i had a crush on was trying to stop me but then i wasnt myself anymore.i wasnt able to catch up with them ...a hour later my dad's corpse was brought home (my siblings told me the doctor wasnt around can you just imagine....i cried myself sick....i became sick for months my mom kept begging me not to die dat she doesnt want to buryanyone again.....then i thought of those i would have left behind...

i miss my dad so much dat every 14th of january holds a possibility of a miracle (always hoping one day he will come back)even as an adult i still look forward to that very day....

my dad took a step to a great beyond at myvery young age......iknow one day every tig will be better in God's own time........

with so much love ....Adieu papa.......

chocolate and plantain gurlz (an interesting perspective of proverbs 31:10-31)

Let me guess you are a little startled at this topic. i also am, please have this chocolate bar (bounty is my favorite) and plantain . feel free to eat any of them as you read on.

One day, while musing about the different kind of females i had met, i had an epiphany. i discovered that they could be classified into two broad categories: chocolate and plantain. you may be thinking to yourself, "BIG DEAL! NA TODAY? WHO NO KNOW? abeg chocolate girls are all out, use cover-up, bla bla bla ...,and plantain girls are the exact opposite. Infact most "SU" girls are plantain girls" well you are not entirely correct, most plaintain girls dress well and there are scores of chocolate girls in the church. yes, i said church ....so wat is my point.


Before i go on i want to point out dat this is not abt marriage (wat do i know abt marriage). i have shared these thought with couple of my friends and they think my point is amusing....... truthfully our biblical text may not fit exactly since it talks abt wife, however it will give us insight abt a type of females........let's find out ......


now chocolate girls........dignity is a sense of your own importance and value. from afar the chocolate girls looks very confident..hmm get closer and you will see her low self worth. she kips working on the outside to get approval. she is a compulsive user of cover-up (excessive make-up) goes to those expensive outings almost everytime, must be at celebritygatherings, must have expensive outgoing cell phones she will never use ( why buy an iphone and use it to make just calls and send sms?) tries to look so much like video girls and then wonder why her bride price is negotiated, buys almost everything she sees on fashion tv and never uses the toilet.

If she has the financial base to maintain this lifestyl, hmm thanks to daddy(ies) and bobos, she will get haughty and live in the illusion that she is of a class .....the moment she is stripped of her glamorous artificial wraper, her weak and malleable core is exposed......


for plantain gurls hmmm........do you know the funny thing is that plantain girls has many of the material things the chocolate girl has, along with a haelthy high self esteem. some day she may use make-up (many do) dress gorgeously and on the oda days, maybe plait her hair, wear plain clothing and eat at white house (an amala joint at sabo) after shoping at tejuosho market. she is very natural and happy with herself.......infact let me stop here so you can imagine a little .....ahh ahh she is just to much.........to be continued.............(fisayo)

MIS-UNDERSTANDING

Alot of things kip runing thru my mind....yesterday was really a bad day.The atmosphere was not encouraging at all,I and my friends were eating together and also talking which we were actually disturbing someone dat was praying....our bad
But then my bff decieded to get on my nerves again..it was to the extreme.i guess he nided someone to tell him the truth which i guess i did sha...no matter how it turned out to be.

i was really mad at him for even thinking he could take me for granted..the whole issue was dat..... infact it all started wen i used a phrase for him saying" dont use anoda man's time to work"....wait wait it's not wat u think....he actually nided to hear dat 4rm me...sincerely. he behave like a girl ...girlz kip things in there mind 4 eva.....
he went to get sometin at the market which i had to even call him up if he got it ..........Good girl like me.....but then he still thinks he is smart but am sorry to tell you guyz he is not

letter dat day he took sometin he was not supposed to take away and i was just trying to tell himhe cant ....abeg on see me see oh ...he just bursted out...lik say sometin bite am....i shock.....i gave it back to him ......people around knw i was not at fault.... i gave it back to him....mcshweeee

but then i went for prayers and asked God for forgiveness knowing fully well i was also at fault..to have returned those wordsi thot God's forgiveness wont be complete if i dont walk up to him......i kept aside my pride.....i did and he just said he was sorry too.. i did care if he meant it or not but i hv don my own part...well snd all good


wat am i driving at.......quarelling destroys alot of things around us even without us knowing....i alwayz try not to quarel with him...but he is just a difficult person to deal with at least to some extent i know him....dats why i tend to ignore his bad side.......
wen you realize that people treat you according to how they see themselves rather than how you are, you're less likely to be affected by their behaviour how do i really cope wit him......


i nid advise.......friends.......

Thanking God......

you woke up this morning....not even to say Good morning prayer,i stood and watched the first thing you did was to pick up your to check if you had any missed call...den you turned on the television, i waited hoping that after TV you would say tnk you but you didnt even the food you ate "no thank you all the same"....you were in a haste to go out and gist with your friends
u came back home and hurried for food again and went to bed........neva thinking you came home without accident and still Angels dat follows you everywhere were reconciling for you.

Remembering the blood dat was shed for your sake to bring you bac home to thy father.there was no way you could come home without the man on the cross.....pause think abt it... it was a praise picture see if you can do dat.....it was not just a cross nor just a man, not even a murderer ,liar or a thief .....guess wat it was an INNOCENT MAN.

you see why you should be thankful to thy father,you eat three meals in your house not in the hospital and still you are not grateful....you sleep everyday and wake up safely, anything could hv happened but because of the blood shed and who is interceding at my right hand for you.....
I am the lord that sitted up the circle of the earth ......i hv forgiven you......sayz the LORD......
am also guilty of that sometyms i wake up without tnkin God........but He is still merciful.....let God help us

STYLE IN YOUR WALLET

SENSITIVE:
Dont be afraid to show ur shy side......boyz dont alwayz want to date a loud mouth............Be sensitive but save the tears of your mate.....gals who bulb at the slightest excuse just freak boyz out
be careful of the people you move with......follow people dat has desame value with you .......people will treat you the way you want to be treated......wen you follow agbero(ras boy) he will treat you ras........so be sensitive to thing around you

CONFIDENCE:
Hold your head up high and stop slouching.....not only will it make you appear more confident.....it will improve your posture and make your cloth hang better.......lol......funny rite........seriously wen you walk with no confidence and really bothered abt the way you will be addressed ........you even become very distracting...........and you will just continue to adjust your cloth............that's why isay dont wear anything you dont feel comfortable in .....believe me it will show

CHEEKY:
Smile...smile...smile...it will make you and everyone around you feel better..........people say hold his gaze, look away slowly and then cheekly smile back........its drives him wild.....wow.......are you serious........guess it has worked for somepeople..........dont ever be shy to start up a conversation with someone......expecially if is someone you like ......you can be the first to say hi....and leave him/her to carry out the remaining job........
if you look good or feel good ...it shows on the outside...boyz reckon that the sexiest girls are the ones who alwayz look like they're having a great time........so dont ever stress your look ...just smile.

LAID BACK:
Boys like girls to look natural, so dont cake on the slap...if you know what i mean and definitely dont dress like Christina Aguilera or madonna clone.......

dont strees about your outfit/hairstyle/ body.... cos boyz love girls who are comfortable with their looks..... a positive attitude gets desame in return.........
LIFE IS COOL.......Bla Bla Bla

thought running thru my mind..........

Alot is running thru my mind rite which iguess i shouls just blow.....i check myself sometyms and i feel like i have not acheived anytin .....there are tyms i talk to people at the end i feel just so empty at the end .....at the same tym i talk to people dat make life worth living........i really nid alot of chances in my life which iguess can happen while sitting in one place......i dont want a wasted life in life i have learn to accept thing the way they are but not to remain there and also listen to people.....i take corrections no matter how frustrating it could be......qam not afraid of losing my friends.....a friend of mine tried to destroy me once and didnt succeed ....i get to knw abt it .....so tell me wat else to be afraid of......they say kip your friends close...kip your enemies closer.......i disagree cos in dis resent world friends tend to destroy you faster than your enemy cos your friend knows you better i realise most of the people you give your life to today wont even be around in a few more years.....dats why am really not bothered abt wat people say abt me......i tried to tell a friend of mine that was complaining abt church folks to just ignore them and try to give the best she can give to life .....you can never satisfy everybody in life the teenage and youth years are a tym wen young people experience a lot of conflicting emotions....which they automatically blame it on odas............ I try to be available for my friends even thou they are neva 4 me...i help them all i can.....some friend suffocate you that you get entangled with them.......s i just try to be careful.......i seriously nid the help of God in every area of my life.......friends wat do you think.............

being cool

you're not cool bcos of ow you walk or what you wear or the people you talk to......alot of people pretend to be wat they are not.....n wen you get to their houses wat u see is garri n epa.......which is really upseting.......to know that they are all pretending......you see them outside n they are lik i eat here........"the here means tasty fried chicken" its too ras......can u just imagine


back in high school i had a friend who wears all sort of designers feeling fly but @home she is somebody else....with "mary amaka gown"wen i saw her i was shocked she was tryin to hide herself 4rm me but i had to call her n she was panting........really its none of my buzz........i just feel why try to be wat you are not..... be yourself you cant be anybody else even thou u pretent to be one

you are accepted and favoured bcos of the good person you are, not the perception you try to create.
surround yourself with people who believe in you small people criticize big dreams.dont allow your faith and self-esteem to be robbed by critical and negative people

you are a great you and a lousy anyone else ....be you ....you are great

nid ur help

which is da best teacher .........EXPERIENCE OR BOOK

friendship.............and our differences

hmmm what's your definition for friendship.......for me its acepting them with both their gud n bad characters.........some friend try to impose thing on you...... which automatically end up not workin for you......friendship is suppose to be tagged "thinking of others"

be careful of friend cos the people you give yourself to today mite not be around tomorrow..........friends change ,,,we all change......alot of people change mates, jobs and friends they neva think of changing themselves........friends are the reason we smile

kip friends .....dont lose them.......but note dat if ur friends cant change you u change your friends...................cos life is sweet..........

difference btw In love and real love

being" in love" is havin strong romantic feelings for someone.....is a wonderful feeling. the problem is that we confuse it to real love.. do u know da difference? "in love" focuses on our own happiness....
"real love" focuses on the well being of the oda person..........

attitude

your attitude colors every aspect of your life .....it is like the mind's paintbrush
you cannot disconnect attitude from reality and expect success........
our attitudes don't come from our circumstances or personal history..... attitude does not come 4rm outside ourselves, it comes 4rm within...........