THE GIFT

THE GIFTS

The gift of listening
But you must really listen. No interrupting no daydreaming, no planning your response, just listening.

The gift of affection
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and hand holds, let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

The gift of laughter
Clip cartoons, share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say I love to laugh with you

The gift of a written note
It can be a simple ‘thanks for the help’ note or a full sonnet. A brief hand written note may be remembered for a life time and may even change a life.

The gift of compliment
A simple and sincere, you look great in red, you did a super job or that was a wonderful meal, can make someone’s day.

The gift of favour
Everyday, go out of your way to do something kind.

The gift of solitude
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

The gift of cheerful disposition
The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone

FRIENDS

WELL ...friends they say are the reasons we smile. friends have a way of shaping your life whether positive or negative, some friends even stick better than family.

my first year in the university of lagos, i met some friends who were fun to be with but all they care about was fashion, boys and the happening things. i tried to fit in but i was always me. they love to see me dance because am very good at it. we hardly talk about books or church. when ever we are been given one assignment or the other they always collect mine ....Well i believe what are friends for.

many times when they talk about sex, i really dont have much to say because have never experienced it. sometimes i get mad at them when they talk about me not having sex in public. all the same we just laugh it out. Alot of my class mates called me several times to warn me about those girl that why do i keep walking with them, i just dont fit in, but i couldnt just diss them like that.

second semester of my year one, i was sick, i had reactions on my skin so i had to go home. while i was away the course registration was on, my friends did theirs but i couldnt do mine and they never bothered about doing it for me. before i got back it was closed. i felt bad i asked them why they couldnt help me, well one of them (the one i was very close to ) said she flashed me when she was doing hers but i didnt call back.

i started running from one office to the other, writing one letter or the other and none of my so called friends offered to go with me. it was like the hardest time of my life. to my biggest surprise some group of girls i hardly talk came to me and consoled me. they apparently followed me to do everything i need to do, they even prayed with me, but i still wasnt able to do it, i felt loved and i really love them for helping out.

they call me constantly to know how am doing but my so call friends never did. when exams started, i had no reason to run home or be ashamed, sometimes those girls will come drag me to see them off to the gate when going for their exams when they return they come to my room we talk about the questions. and they usually drop theirs for me so i can use them when its time for me to write mine.

i was taught to choose my friends, that situation made me strong and helped to me able to face any challenge and today by God's grace am a better person. i have new friends that love me for me and we are always there for each other.

it feels good to be back

getting admission and all have really taken too much of my time ....but am glad i did.have been through so much on my own, things that almost made me wanna give up bhu then i remembered there is always hope as long as am alive
and God has promised to see me through.

am a living witness to Gods never ending mercy....

it feels good to be back...i know have missed alot of post and all but i guess its never too late.

Husband and wife matter no bi small issue oh

i heard a story about a husband and wife who were feuding and giving each other the silent treatment. one night he realized he needed her (the wife) to wake him up @ an early hour to catch a flight.
Not wanting to humble himself and be the first to break the silence, he left her a note to wake him at 5am. The next morning he awakened to find out that he had overslept by a couple of hours and had missed his flight. As he leaped out of bed to go and angrily confront her, he noticed a piece of paper on his night stand
lollzzz.. cant you see ow funny dis is.... guess wat she wrote...
The note read; "it is 5am wake up!
many tyms we feel we have been trespassed or wronged, but rather than discussing the issue with the offender, we resort to sulking and pouting.

marriage is truly a great journey, i believe the best thing is to talk about issues n try to sort them out rather than digging holes in the walls....
marry someone u knw and understand, i knw u cant know somebody 100% ....but the little u knw about them can go a long way.....

THE LAW OF CONNECTION

The ten commandment of handling difficult people

1. Use the 10% principle, find the 1% you agree on and give it 100% of your attention
2. Love people more than policies, but love truth more than people
3. Give others benefit of the doubt
4. Learn to be flexible of your doubt
5. Check your own attitude
6. Dont over react to conflict and disagreement
7. Welcome the conflict. make it a learning experience
8. Provide an escape for the person in conflict, let them maintain their dignity
9. Take risk, give people a second chance
10. Take the high road, be generous and believe the best about others.


this has rilly helped me cos you can never stay away from difficult people, even thou you try to avoid them they will always come to you.

this is a word for myself, i op you are grabbing it.

EVERYTHING COMES IF A MAN CAN ONLY WAIT

Jh 16:33 says "here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows, but take heart bcos i have overcome the world.
most of us go thru pains, accident, sickness and we often say God is wicked for making us go thru all dat. Believe me, many of us dont have idea why all dis are happening.
now let me tell you some of the reasons why ; God knows wat is best for us, you survived an accident becos of God's mercy, dat doesnt mean mercy was not made available for the oda person that didnt survive the accident, its Gods dat knows wat is best for the person.

Angels try to speak to us each n every minute but ow many of us listen? ow many of us even know dat we have angels beside us day n nite
a man who has bin lookin for a job for the past 4years and all of a sudden, he gets a very good job, will you say wat has God bin looking at, why didnt He give him the job since? it takes understanding for us to know dat not every thing dat are urgent are really important.

no matter who you are, as long as you're alive even dou you get to eat once a day. i knw its still God's love and favour speakin for you, have bin telling my friends i nid a change on every side of my life ..i sounded desperate. but then i realize that God is not sleeping He knows wat my problem is, why cant i just give Him chance. He loves me and He said He will never let me down...

it doesn't matter ow your feelin rite now....killin your self wont change anytin ...remember Jesus paid the price.
i nid you to knw dat.... even before you commit any sin Jesus blood speaks for you ....dont take that for granted

i love you God loves you.

HEART BREAK....(inspired by BSCN.....the departed)

hmmm my people oh where do i start from....bear with me this note is just a quick write up...cos i read BSCN' blog....ok.....lets start....

its a sweet experience to fall in love ....something you cant just explain...most tyms we nid to hold everything close you our heart....although alot of guys dont knw what they have until they lose it ..likewise ladies.

singles, who have been hurt and have experience a broken relationship, often carry in their heart unforgiveness towards those around them....bscn' story is quiet different from this....cos i really dont know the full story how she meet reggie... but am sure she was hoping something great and wonderful would come out of the relationship....someone once shared a story of how her fiance impregnated and married her best friend...tell me ow can one get over this...

but the truth still remain that life goes on, when she later got involved in other relationship she ened up dumping the men after raising their hopes that she was committed to the relationship.....wetin.....my people is she hurting them or hurting herself...

you need to let go of bitterness by accepting the frailty of man......after all no be man...and to err is man

learn from the past...ask yourself what part did you play that led to the relationship breaking up? Do not conclude that you did nothing, such attitude mite just be the reason why it got broken in the first place

alot of ladies ...aba....women...most of us put the blame on men...without trying to adjust ourselves.
someone said that one of the reasons that men and women fail to love is because they dont do an autopsy on the death of their last relationship

speak to urself....the mind is a battle ground, you need to say to urself...move one ...tell yourself the truth...no mind me i know ee no dey easy ...but that is the only thing that will help.

Renew your mind...that all men and women are not desame though both sex have similiar traits, but the degree of traits are manifested is one of the differentiating feactors

look at the bright side of things..there is someone somewhere God has prepared specially for you.....hmmmm...ideal man and wowan...see groove.....lol
dont bother abt HEART BREAKERS ...THEY DONT WORTH THE CRY.....
1. knw that it is not the end of the world

2. work on your mind to guide you against bitterness, hatred and envy...

3. believe in yourself ...notin more

4. ehh ehh start taking care of yourselfand make yourself available for ...BETTA GUY...

5.Become friendly, smile laugh and mingle with others

6. definitely, thought of him / her would come to yuor mind...try an engage yourself to some thing good...

7. need you cry any longer, wipe your tears, come out of your shell, think abt those great things you desire coming your way

8.live as if you're the only creature on earth....

it helps.....what do you think my friends do you agree with me.....